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April 04, 2018

The benefit of Positively Living a Fake Life

"Fake it until you make it." Do you believe in this slogan. But wait, we all hate to hear anything fake, why then do we have to attached ourselves with it in the name of trying to achieve our heart desire. Maybe I am the one misinterpreting it. But I don't think so.




According to wikipedia!
"Fake it till you make it" (frequently 'til you make it or until you make it[1]) is an English aphorism which suggests that >by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life. It >echoes the underlying principles of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) as a means to enable a change in one's >behavior.
The phrase "fake it till you make it" is similar in meaning to the idiom "act as if", and is also similar to Aristotle's idea >that to be virtuous, one must act as a virtuous person would act.
In the 1920s, Alfred Adler, a disciple of Sigmund Freud, developed a therapeutic technique that he called "acting as if". >This strategy gave his clients an opportunity to practice alternatives to dysfunctional behaviors. Adler's method is still >used today and is often described as "role play".

This is positively the positive side of living a fake life.
But there are people who not for a good reason life a fake life in order to impress and in most cases putting themselves in more big mess. Such as;
  • Dressing to impress opposite sex or otherwise
  • Emulating a lifestyle you cannot afford
  • Speaking in a tone you are not naturally good at
  • Struggling hard to meet up with peer group
The list is endless.
Today our problem begin by negatively using the quote "fake it till you make it". This in most cases rather than moving us closer to successful life is dragging us backward.



In addition to wikipedia positive use of "fake it til you make it". Mentalfloss featured ;
8 "Fake It ‘Til You Make It" Strategies Backed by Science bY Amanda McCorquodale Trying to fake your way to success seems dubious at best and delusional at worst. And yet, there is plenty of science that proves you can actually fool yourself and others into becoming more successful, finding love, and increasing your happiness. Researchers have found that “acting” a certain way allows your brain to “rehearse” a new way of thinking and can set off a desired chain of events in the future. Here are eight scientifically-backed strategies for “faking” your way to a better job, relationship, and mood.
  1. SAY CHEESE: Scientists have found that if you want to lift your mood, you should force yourself to smile.
  2. STRIKE A POWERFUL POSE: In her much-publicized 2012 TED talk, Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School social psychologist, shared her findings that adopting a powerful posture can affect your body chemistry.
  3. PRETEND YOU KNOW THE ANSWER: A 2012 study published in The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology found that expecting to know correct answers can actually improve our test-taking abilities.
  4. DRESS FOR THE JOB YOU WANT: Researchers at Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management found that wearing particular clothes associated with certain positive qualities helped improve the wearer’s performance.
  5. LISTEN TO HAPPY MUSIC: When you’re in a funk, probably the last thing you want to do is turn on some Pharrell. But recent research found that forcing yourself to listen to happy music and consciously trying to become happier can actually lift your mood.
  6. MIMIC GOOD LEADERS: Say you’ve just been promoted to a position with job requirements that are outside of your skill set. New research shows that the best thing you can do is mimic someone else around you who displays the required skill sets, even if your first inclination is to worry about appearing like a fraud.
  7. FEIGN ROMANTIC INTEREST: Richard Wiseman, a psychology professor at the University of Hertfordshire in the U.K., split roughly 100 participants at a speed dating event in Edinburgh in 2012 into two groups to test what he calls the "As If Principle” (if you act "as if" you are a certain way, you'll come to feel that way). One group was instructed to behave as they normally would on their dates, while another was told to pretend they were already in love by gazing into each other’s eyes, touching hands, and whispering secrets. All participants were then asked how close they felt to their various partners (on a scale of one to seven) and whether they would like to see each other again. On average, those faking romantic interest reported that they felt one point more intimate with their partners. Forty-five percent of this group also said they would like to see the other person again, while only 20 percent of the “normal” speed dating group reported the same. Wiseman told the Telegraph of his study, “The assumption was that the emotion leads to the action or behaviour but this shows it can happen the other way around, action can lead to emotions.”
  8. FAKE CONFIDENCE TO GAIN INFLUENCE: It turns out that in group dynamics, early assertiveness becomes self-enforcing. In a 2013 study published by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers randomly assigned three groups of college students the task of writing two paragraphs on either their job ambitions, their duties and obligations, or their commutes. They then formed same-sex teams using students from each of the three groups and instructed them to brainstorm a hypothetical startup company. Afterwards, everyone took a survey in which they rated the extent they respected and admired the other members of their team. The researchers found that the individuals who had written about their ambitions enjoyed a higher rank in the group pecking order and were perceived as being more assertive and proactive than those who had focused on their job duties or commutes. By just shifting your thoughts to your goals, the research suggests, you can project a more capable, confident persona.
You can read it in details on Mentalfloss website

My view on this assertion is that psychologically, it could get you to where you are going faster by acting, feeling and seeing yourself in that state, it move you closer. This is so different from the negative use of it and in most cases those who use it negatively are not aware of this, they only do to deceive people.

Keep the dream to your heart while you keep working patiently and persistently towards it.
Believe me , The dream will surely come true.

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